Passion and Emotions

Passion is that fiery emotion that makes people want to create.

Or should it be said that passionate people are on an emotional adventure.

Those who journey into the depths of a subject are always setting themselves up for an emotional roller coaster; passionate highs and passionate lows.

The journey may be an attempt at acquiring a thing, or of winning the affection of a person, or of inventing something completely new or something that no one else has ever thought of before. The reasons to be passionate are infinite but the pain of staying the course or of letting go when the time is right is often too much to bare and passion can then be just has much of an hindrance as a divine gift.

Take the lover for example who believes he or she has finally met their match, either through planning or just through chance meeting,  and for a period becomes completely consumed by the relationship. We've probably all been there where the beginning is a fairytale filled with joy and careless expressiveness. It's the honeymoon stage. But over time the personalities begin to expose themselves and for too many lovers the passion becomes overwhelmed by negative emotions and the fabric that bonded the lovers together in the beginning simply fails.

That failure itself may be one sided or mutual but it is always painful.

For some the passionate love that they had turns to emotional rage and self defeating torture. And while most somehow eventually overcome even the worst ends to relationships some go over the edge and lose their souls to this divine essence.

Maybe love affairs should come with an owners manual. The most important step in this book of love and passion would most likely be the part about "letting go".

And that chapter should certainly be consulted by  both parties at the beginning, during, and at the end of the relationship.

What is letting go ?

Letting go is about being yourself and not your partner.

That's definitely a simple way of looking at it but it is what it is. To be truly satisfied with the self then the person must let go of the ego which will tempt the self to continue to try to control the environment to provide that which never belonged to the self in the first place.

When the environment says no then letting go simply means accepting what nature really wants.

Easier said than done......

However another chapter in the book of love and passion is called 'healing the self' from the letting go process.

In this chapter the guide tells the lover that there are steps to healing and that the simple steps are a natural phenomenon common amongst lovers and other passionate people.

One healing method is simple and involves five steps.

Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, and finally Acceptance.

This is the Kubler-Ross process to healing.

The strangest thing about these stages is that the abandoned lover cannot force the process or think themselves out of one stage and into the next. 

Another healing method may be a little more involved and follows a more intense 12 stages of healing. This one intends to heal through a network approach to wholeness and it's the work of Donald Epstein.

There are some people who have used the same steps to recovery through the same 12 steps that recovering alcoholics, addicts, or family and friends of drug dependent people have used to successfully recover from their passionate love affair with medications or alcohol.

It's whatever works for you in the end and no technique of healing can do any worst than watching the ego destroy the true self.

Passion and emotions are creative agents of the divine essence but in the wrong hands they are killers.

Passion and emotions build character yet they can torture character.

Passion and emotions drive people to great things and to madness.

Isn't it ironic!!!